It is my belief, (and that of current psychiatric thinking,) that true and lasting fulfillment comes of identifying one's deepest psychological needs, as an individual.
   Then finding a way to get these needs met in a safe, sane, consensual and positive manner.
   Needs that are not met in a conscious, positive manner may be met in an unconscious, possibly negative manner, but they will be met, somehow.
   That is our nature.

The unconscious seeks to fill it's needs, anyway it can. A negative attitude about a need is quite likely to result in a negative experience in fulfilling that need.
   On the other hand, having a positive attitude about the need will likely result in a subjective positive experience in fulfillment, even if the experience itself is one usually considered negative.

Confused? Think of it this way: if you desperately craved the sensation of falling from a great height, the sane thing to do would be to take up bungy-jumping or skydiving.
    Then if you go visit the CN Tower, you won't have a lot of unfulfilled needs inside your head saying "JUMP!!", and possibly making you do something foolish.

What needs are you suppressing, that I can help you learn to express in a safe, sane, consensual manner, so that these needs can be used to strengthen your sense of personal power and individuality?

We're seeing a certain reaction right now against a society where it's just not acceptable to be yourself.
    Advertising and media tells us that unless you have the right kind of car and wear the right kind of clothes and drink the right kind of soft drink, you're not an acceptable person.

Submissives are looked down upon because they're submissive. They're viewed as being weak and timid and not in control of themselves and afraid of making decisions.
   That's not really how they are at all.
   And people who want to have power over others are just seen as being evil. Look at how we treat our politicians, the cynicism we have around them.

So whether you're dom. or sub., you're gonna get rejection from society. Now that's not a very good situation to be in, is it? As Alice in Wonderland said,

    Thank heavens were all different! Think of how boring it would be if we were all the same?